Meditation is mostly about the breath.
I have been a meditator for 20 years, and it has been life changing for me. I started with guided journeys on audio-tape, but today I am part of a very dedicated meditation community.
To me, meditation should feel good. It is a time of relaxing, coming home to yourself, and allowing yourself to rest.
Here are my top tips for helping make meditation an enjoyable experience:
1. Keep it simple. Meditation is simple.
2. Give yourself a quiet space. Quiet really helps. If you don't have quiet, then consider headphones w sacred music, like OM's or mantra music or prayers that really open your heart.
3. Sit on a pillow if that's more comfortable, or a chair if you want.
4. Begin to breathe a little more deeply than usual.
5. Let thoughts go. Do this with as much focus as you can.
6. I like to rest my attention behind my brow center.
That's it! You're meditating!
You might also consider using an app or a guided journey.
Insight Timer is good. I also like to meditate to OM's sometimes, or just a track of wonderfully clear crystal bowl sounds. Easily found on You Tube.
Frequent short sessions may be better than one long session.
You are resetting yourself to a state of calm.
These days, I do a lot of OM's while meditating, and I have learned to breath very long and deep.
A wonderful track to meditate to, even OM to
Meditation is about relaxing.
Do It Your Way
Eventually you may find that you crave your meditation times. You find peace in them.
And you find yourself extending them. Even as long as 60 minutes. And people will start commenting, "Have you changed something?".
But please don't make meditation into another way to make yourself feel bad. A silent mind isn't really realistic. You can't control your mind, you just get better at observing it. The more you observe it, the more it calms.
Greater relaxation is the goal.
Most people need some kind of support, like a teacher or a guided journey to follow along with.
Insight Timer is a wonderful app that offers thousand of guided meditations, a meditation timer, and a huge community, I also really love anything by Eckhart Tolle - all his work is about meditation. As you listen to him teach, you will find that you get flashes of peace, aka meditation, due to his transmission of meditation.
Meditation should make you feel better! And if you really struggle to keep at it, then maybe listen to your body and do what it IS moving you to do: work on eating better, do more yoga, or maybe just walk more. Movement is as good for the body as stillness.
The outcome of meditation is we become more loving, calmer, and wiser.
It is really a practice of calming down, over and over.