Meditation is mostly about the breath.
I have been a meditator for 17 years, and it has been life changing for me. I started with guided journeys on audio-tape, but today I am part of a very dedicated meditation community.
To me, meditation should feel good. It is a time of relaxing, coming home to yourself, and allowing yourself to rest.
Here are my top tips for helping make meditation an enjoyable experience:
First, give yourself a quiet and beautiful space. Make it warm if you're cold, open a window if you're hot. Stretch for a minute or two, to get your body more relaxed.
Sit on a pillow if that's more comfortable, or a chair if you want.
Wrap yourself in a blanket if that feels good to you.
Maybe begin your meditation with a prayer.
Now breathe, a little more deeply than usual.
Let thoughts go. Do this with as much focus as you can.
I like to rest my attention behind my brow center.
You might also consider using an app or a guided journey. Insight Timer is good. I also like to meditate to OM's sometimes, I just wonderfully clear crystal bowl sounds.
Frequent short sessions are better than one long session.
A wonderful track to meditate to
Meditation is mostly about the breath, and relaxing.
Do It Your Way
Eventually you may find that you crave your meditation times. You find peace in them.
And you find yourself extending them. Even as long as 60 minutes. And people will start commenting, "Have you changed something?".
But please don't make meditation into another way to make yourself feel bad. A silent mind isn't really realistic. You can't control your mind, you just get better at observing it. Greater relaxation is the goal.
To keep it up, most people need some kind of support, like a teacher, a guided journey to follow along with, or at least an app.
Insight Timer is a wonderful app that offers thousand of guided meditations, a meditation timer, and a huge community, I also really love anything by Eckhart Tolle - all his work is about meditation. As you listen to him teach, you will find that you get flashes of peace, aka meditation, due to his transmission.
Meditation should make you feel better! And if you really struggle to keep at it, then maybe listen to your body and do what it IS moving you to do.
The outcome of meditation is we become more loving, calmer, and wiser.
It is really a practice of calming down, over and over.